The Most Effective Ways To Deal With Raw Emotions

By Larry Murphy


A beautiful day can be ruined by a single act when you least expect it. This leaves you seething with raw emotions to the point of taking a nasty drastic action. Experts advise people to manage these feelings because they may cause a lot of damage. But how do you deal with them before you hurt people or damage property?

The simplest and easiest way to deal with rage is to take a deep breath. This can be done on spot and spontaneously. It gives you the precious delay that will stop you from taking an action that you will regret for the rest of your life. You will also be buying time to help you view the issue from a better perspective.

Put yourself in the shoes of your offender. Some reactions come from lack of deeper thought or failure to understand the circumstance that led the person into making the decision that you now consider atrocious. Taking a moment to think of the person allows you to have a better understanding of the situation. It dawns on you that your reaction could have been similar in the same circumstance.

Leave the scene. Remaining at the scene or seeing the perpetrator of the atrocious event took place makes a person angrier. Take a break from the person and entire scenario. It will save you from taking a drastic step that you will regret later. It will also help you think of a better solution other than anger and quick reaction.

Take control of what you think and especially how you process the situation. Actions taken and the thoughts that continue to persist will affect your reaction. If they continue being negative, the action taken will also be negative. Exercise restraint, listen and dialogue on the best way forward. This needs to be a habit so that you can master and apply it instinctively.

Reset into your controlled behavior. Each person has a character that guides you on how to react to situations. There are reactions that are not aligned to the character of a person. You must practice restraint in order to turn to it when things get bad. Be the bigger guy in the situation.

Identify the feeling, acknowledge its existence and accept the entire scenario. This consciousness helps you to realize how close you are to taking a regrettable action. Since the feelings have been identified and accepted, they can easily be dealt with.

Soothe yourself. Each person has a way of calming his or her senses down. It could be by humming a song, taking a walk, tapping on the desk, watching the horizon or even talking to someone. The technique buys time and also helps you avoid drastic and regrettable actions. It takes practice and a lot of restraint to take control of your emotions.

Find a reliable support system that you can lean on. Some people talk to a friend, family, colleague or senior, among others, who help you offload the overflowing emotions. Such support enables you to make a more informed and level headed decision that you will not regret.




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